Life is just a series of pages, chapters, seasons, and stages. Our minds have this unique way of catastrophizing life events, even minor ones, and make us believe that they are permanent changes. Yes we go through real catastrophes, but I’m not talking about those. Im talking about other things, that if you have some support to help you break it down, you can see that they are just stages, or moments, or phases, or seasons in this whole collection of chapters that make up our lives.
I personally feel this way in particular when it comes to my kids. I remember bouncing feverishly up and down the length of my house for 5-7 hours a day, alone for days at a time, as my new colicky baby screamed bloody murder for the first 5 months of her life. I did everything I could to help her, changed everything that I ate, tried every proposed colic solution, and the only thing that would make her stop screaming even for a second was if I did deep squat bouncing- and never stopped. Needless to say I got back into great post-baby shape very quickly. But I remember thinking the world as I knew it was ending, and had no idea what was wrong with my baby and would she be like this forever?!
I had zero support, my then husband was a pilot and gone for days at a time, all the time, and all of my family lived in Canada. I couldn’t take my daughter anywhere, because my nervous system was so fried from her screaming that I couldn’t bear struggling through even a 10 minute screaming car ride.
I struggled through those 5 months, and once things started to get better I would face another obstacle. Only to realize that the obstacles kept coming, and I kept making it through, and the stage was never permanent. This sounds silly to me now, but nobody ever told me that. Nobody ever looked me in the eye and said, “Hey girl, I see you and I see that you are struggling. And I promise you, this is just a stage and it will pass. You WILL get through it.”
So for whoever needs to hear it, this is me telling you hey girl, I see you. I see that you are struggling. I promise you this is just a stage and it will pass. You WILL get through it.